Comments on: Stop playing the blame game - it’s for losers http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/ by Sunny Bindra Wed, 07 Jan 2009 05:07:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1 By: Brian Wambaya http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2057 Brian Wambaya Tue, 10 Jun 2008 16:15:05 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2057 Hi sunny your articles are quite inspiring and I would like to place them on my website to give it a more audience in Kenya. Brian from Lang'ata Hi sunny your articles are quite inspiring and I would like to place them on my website to give it a more audience in Kenya.

Brian from Lang’ata

]]> By: Mumbi http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2059 Mumbi Wed, 11 Jun 2008 07:47:07 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2059 Interesting read. I want to know, though, when you drive in Nairobi, keeping in the right lane and some drivers deliberately cut in front of you or over lap, don't you want to blame the driving school they went to, or the insanity of the driver? Sunny, not blaming these people will breed a nation of losers! The power company will think that it's okay for us to go hours on end without electricity. the geography teacher will think it's okay not to actually pass on some knowledge. And drivers in Nairobi will think that overlapping is actually legal. Not putting things right will make a few of us go insane with unresolved rage. Interesting read. I want to know, though, when you drive in Nairobi, keeping in the right lane and some drivers deliberately cut in front of you or over lap, don’t you want to blame the driving school they went to, or the insanity of the driver? Sunny, not blaming these people will breed a nation of losers! The power company will think that it’s okay for us to go hours on end without electricity. the geography teacher will think it’s okay not to actually pass on some knowledge. And drivers in Nairobi will think that overlapping is actually legal. Not putting things right will make a few of us go insane with unresolved rage.

]]> By: Sunny Bindra http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2060 Sunny Bindra Wed, 11 Jun 2008 07:55:38 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2060 Mumbi: Driving in Kenya is indeed maddening! But we must make a distinction between 'blaming' and 'addressing'. The former turns you into a victim of the maniacs; the latter means you try to do something, anything about it. For example, I try to never allow any such imbecile to cut in in front of me. I don't always succeed, but at least I make my point to them and to other drivers. Also, I do make a note of number plates, particularly if the driver is of a company vehicle, and write immediately to the organisation concerned. If I merely 'blamed', I would feel powerless and hopeless. Mumbi:

Driving in Kenya is indeed maddening! But we must make a distinction between ‘blaming’ and ‘addressing’. The former turns you into a victim of the maniacs; the latter means you try to do something, anything about it.

For example, I try to never allow any such imbecile to cut in in front of me. I don’t always succeed, but at least I make my point to them and to other drivers. Also, I do make a note of number plates, particularly if the driver is of a company vehicle, and write immediately to the organisation concerned.

If I merely ‘blamed’, I would feel powerless and hopeless.

]]> By: maina http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2064 maina Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:23:39 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2064 I think your article is spot on. By blaming everyone and sundry, we lose the power to act on our problems and fail to see the opportunities before us. No matter who acts to our detriment, we still have the opportunity to look ahead and do well. Keep up. I think your article is spot on. By blaming everyone and sundry, we lose the power to act on our problems and fail to see the opportunities before us. No matter who acts to our detriment, we still have the opportunity to look ahead and do well.

Keep up.

]]> By: Sunny Bindra http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2065 Sunny Bindra Wed, 11 Jun 2008 19:12:33 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2065 Blaming is often just an excuse for inaction. Having blamed, we take the problem out of our hands. I have studied leadership for a while now, and can confirm that 'blame-gaming' is not a trait you find in those people who start in garages with no capital and produce global businesses! And one Barack Obama can be seen studiously avoiding playing it... Blaming is often just an excuse for inaction. Having blamed, we take the problem out of our hands.

I have studied leadership for a while now, and can confirm that ‘blame-gaming’ is not a trait you find in those people who start in garages with no capital and produce global businesses!

And one Barack Obama can be seen studiously avoiding playing it…

]]> By: Shray http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2070 Shray Thu, 12 Jun 2008 11:36:25 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2070 Great article Sunny - reminds me of one of my favourite quotes and quite apt considering your opening sentence: It's better to light a candle than curse the darkness". Great article Sunny - reminds me of one of my favourite quotes and quite apt considering your opening sentence: It’s better to light a candle than curse the darkness”.

]]> By: observer http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2071 observer Thu, 12 Jun 2008 19:21:00 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2071 Love the article its spot on in regards to how I see the issues that face our country and Africa in general. While all the things you mention merit blame, they fall into two categories, there are those things that we have direct control over and those that we don’t. So while the city council might not clean my street, I have control on whether I litter or not. It’s this type of personal responsibility over those things within our spheres of control that move us forward as individuals and as a collective. Love the article its spot on in regards to how I see the issues that face our country and Africa in general. While all the things you mention merit blame, they fall into two categories, there are those things that we have direct control over and those that we don’t. So while the city council might not clean my street, I have control on whether I litter or not. It’s this type of personal responsibility over those things within our spheres of control that move us forward as individuals and as a collective.

]]> By: Sunny Bindra http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2076 Sunny Bindra Fri, 13 Jun 2008 08:12:06 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2076 Observer: An important point. Often, playing the blame game becomes an excuse for our own bad behaviour. Shray: Touche! Observer:

An important point. Often, playing the blame game becomes an excuse for our own bad behaviour.

Shray:

Touche!

]]> By: Ahmed http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2077 Ahmed Fri, 13 Jun 2008 09:33:41 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2077 Hi, Its good to know that theres someone who actually knows why Africa doesn't hit any development. Worse still is the fact that most Africans avoid doing the right things by taking shortcuts. If we have a society of people who work hard to achieve their dreams, and never look for shortcuts to do so, then we will get things done right. Perhaps the keyword here is ATTITUDE. Best Regards Hi,

Its good to know that theres someone who actually knows why Africa doesn’t hit any development.

Worse still is the fact that most Africans avoid doing the right things by taking shortcuts. If we have a society of people who work hard to achieve their dreams, and never look for shortcuts to do so, then we will get things done right. Perhaps the keyword here is ATTITUDE.

Best Regards

]]> By: Nesh http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2596 Nesh Tue, 05 Aug 2008 07:11:09 +0000 http://www.sunwords.com/2008/06/08/stop-playing-the-blame-game-its-for-losers/#comment-2596 Lets Rise Africa we couldnt be in a better postion,nice one sunny u are an amazing son of kenya and indeed Africa Lets Rise Africa we couldnt be in a better postion,nice one sunny u are an amazing son of kenya and indeed Africa

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